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Wednesday, February 25, 2009

I Need A Break


I began writing this blog because I needed an outlet for my thoughts and I wanted to write. I did not do it to make money, as you will see, I have no ads on my blog. Along my journey with Thoughts, I discovered that it was exciting to be in the blogging community and to have people from all over the world stumble on to my blog. My readership began to grow and I started spending a lot of time visiting other blogs and meeting some new people. I have enjoyed this. With all of the discoveries, the biggest thing I have learned is that to have a successful blog takes time and energy and lots of networking. The reason I started my blog slipped away and it turned into a goal to have lots of readers, instead of just to be fun.

I am in a place now where I need to focus on myself and I need to take a break from the computer. I spend 8 hours a day at work on the computer and then I come home and spend time on the computer. I know it's not healthy and I need to start focusing on exercise and getting into better shape.

So, with that, I want to thank all of my loyal readers and ask for your understanding and your support. I will eventually blog again, I am sure. But for now, wish me luck in my journey to self-improvement.

Take care,
Danifer

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Crazy News


Did you hear about the 8-year old boy who drove his father's van into a tree?

This alone sounds a little crazy, but it gets better.

On February 8, 2009, in Sarasota, FL an 8-year old boy and his 34-year old father were driving along and the boy ran into a tree with the van that he was driving. When officers arrived at the scene, the father was asked to get out of the vehicle. As he was reaching for his driver's license, he fell to the ground and landed on his face. He told the officers that he was feeling woozy and didn't want to drive so he asked his son to drive. He later stated that he wanted to have a bonding moment with his son.

When officers spoke to the 8-year old boy, they got a different story. The boy claimed that his father took some "liquid medicine" in order to feel better. He then pointed to an empty bottle of Canadian Whiskey in the vehicle.

The father was arrested on child endangerment.

Can you believe this story?

We discussed it at dinner the other night with our 8-year old son. Of course, he was hoping we would say HE could drive now, but we quickly put an end to that idea.

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Movie Review: He's Just Not That Into You


Great cast!

A movie everyone can relate to!

Funny & Heartwarming!

Good chick flick!

So these are all of the "headliners" that I was hoping to get out of this movie. And it lived up to my expectations.

This movie had some wonderful actors. From the beautiful Scarlett Johansson to the handsome Bradley Cooper and to the quirky Ginnifer Goodwin and the loveable Jennifer Aniston.

If you have ever been in a relationship, whether you are single and loving it or single and hating it, or if you have had your heart broken, you can and will relate to this movie. From the desperate attempts at finding true love and finding that one person who will love you for "you" this movie explores many things that we all go through.

He's Just Not That Into You was funny and dramatic all at the same time. It was a movie I saw with the girls, who, by the way, loved it.

I, on the other hand, had a lot to think about on my long drive home.

One couple that the movie followed has been together for 7 years, living happily unmarried, and they decide to break up because the woman feels they should marry and the man is against the legal union. After being apart for awhile and realizing that even though she is not married to this man, she still has a better "husband" in him than any of her relatives who are married to their own couch potatoes. She realizes that marriage is just a symbolization and that the relationship that you have with someone is what counts, not the piece of paper or the title that you hold.

Another couple in the movie appear to be happily married but yet, the husband finds himself drawn to a beautiful woman who pays him lots of attention and strokes his ego. Even though he realizes he is married and makes half-hearted attempts at pushing the "other woman" away, he pursues her and they start having an affair. This troubles me and could trouble anyone else who has been hurt by an affair. An affair is the way we all feel when we first begin a relationship with someone. You feel so in love and can't get enough of the person. You also believe this person can do no wrong. But once you are with them for awhile and the newness wears off and you see they are a real person, it's just not the same. Or, in this instance, if your lover shoves you in a closet while he makes love to his wife, it's pretty much over.

Then, there is the quirky girl who just can't figure out the signs that men put out. She believes what men tell her and assumes only the best. With help from a man who has "been around the block" and knows the ways of dating, she quickly learns to spot the phonies from the keepers. She does this by calling her helper during dates to run scenerios by him to get his help on how to deal with her date. Haven't we all been this girl? Blindsided by some smooth words at least once?

This movie has other cute story lines that I will not go into, as the above resonated more with me.

In closing, the movie was good and I would suggest seeing it (but maybe not as a date movie - maybe it's more of a chick flick after all).

Did you see this? What did you think? Did you have any deep thoughts or did you just dig/not dig the movie?






Danifers Daily Commute: Volume 4



As I sit at the red light, waiting for time to pass, I notice someone running along the side of the street. This is not your normal "exercise" runner, but someone running to or from something. I begin to take note that the runner is trying to catch up to the public bus that is beginning to shut it's doors. I watch as the sprinter puts forth more effort to reach his destination. As he sees the bus begin to move slightly, as if to tease, the runner attempts to yell at the bus as if the driver will hear him. He then feverishly waves his hands, as he is running, to get the drivers attention. I hope he does not fall. As I watch this display, I wish there was something I could do. What if I honk my horn, would the bus take an extra moment before pulling away from the curb? Could this extra moment allow the runner to make it in time? Sadly, I watch the bus drive away as the deflated sprinter still continues to run after the bus, in hopes that he might have a chance.

Poor runner.

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Facebook - A Place To Meet Friends I Never Had



I put off using Facebook for as long as I could. Since this year is my 20th high school reunion, I was contacted by several people who encouraged me to join the social networking site. Once on there, I felt like I was back in high school, hoping that I would be accepted and acknowledged. High school was a time in my life that I wanted to put behind me. I was not ready for this kind of "popularity contest".

Don't get me wrong, high school was not that bad. I was never "in a clique" like many people were. I was a loner, a person who did not hang out with a crowd of people, but who kept to herself. This is not to say that I did not have friends and that I wasn't an outgoing person. I simply was not committed to being with one group of people. I knew a lot of people and a lot of people knew me.

With Facebook, you have the option to message someone before asking if you can be their friend. The message allows you to write something personal to perhaps remind the person of who you are or if you don't know someone, it is a way to introduce yourself. I like this option. There are people who simply click the "add as friend" option with the hopes that they will be remembered and accepted. There are also people who do this to completely random people they don't know in hopes of building their "friend" network. This just simply is not for me. If I do not know you or if you do not make an effort to get to know me by sending me a message, I will not accept your friend request. I don't want to just be a part of someone's list who doesn't even care who I am or what I am about. I am simply a number to them. In this day and age, there are plenty of cyber stalkers out there that just don't need this encouragement.

Maybe I am looking at this wrong, but I simply want to use my Facebook as a way to re-connect with people who made an impact in my life. I also like to use it to stay connected with my current social network. Do you use Facebook? What do you think about it?