Thursday, May 28, 2009

Facebook Is Making Me Think Too Much!



I have been visiting Facebook everyday now for the last several months. I am keeping in touch with old classmates from high school as well as relatives from in and out of state. It's also a great way to build friendships with people I am casually acquainted with.

FB offers picture and video posting. Many of my classmates from high school have posted pictures from back in the day. One guy, Anthony, carried a video camera around school the whole last day of Senior year and captured a lot of great video footage. High school came back to me and started filling my mind with memories. After 20 years, my memory is pretty shot! lol

These memories made me realize something. I thought of myself as a good kid. I didn't drink, smoke, do drugs or party. I never got in trouble and I worried about everything, including the future. Many of the pictures and videos I saw were all of the "party" crowd. It started me thinking that it looked like they had lots of fun being "teenagers". At the time, I looked down my nose at them because they were crazy and not responsible. Plus, I didn't want to get in trouble. I realize that even though I was friends with a lot of people, I missed out on a lot of growing that should have happened back then. Even though those kids did things that they should have got in trouble for, maybe that's what I needed to experience. Instead, I kept busy with school, planning my upcoming wedding and staying involved with Drama. Don't get me wrong, I still went out and did stuff, like cruising and going to movies, etc. But I didn't do the stuff that now looks so fun to me now. Maybe my life would have been different had I been wild and crazy at 17 instead of waiting until my quarter life crisis at 31. I don't know and I guess I will never know. But I am curious how those "crazy kids" are now. Do they still party all the time? What kind of parents are they?

Perhaps I will push my kids to be a little "crazy" during school and not be so hard on them. I know I will encourage them to "have fun" and "be a kid" a little more.

2 comments:

Sara said...

Danifer,

I had a similar experience when I went on Facebook, except I am much older and so there weren't any videos (thank goodness)!

I was also a good kid, but very shy. Oddly, I was also involved in Drama. I was always a bit jealous of the popular crowd, but now from FB, I realize they've grown up just like me...they have kids, mortgages, etc.

Life crises happen, even if you're the good kid...I can attest to that fact! But I think things even out as you get older.

You are you and a special person. Be proud that you didn't need to do drugs, smoke or party...behaviors that usually resulted because people wanted or needed to fit in.

I sense that you are a caring mom and that you will let your children find their own way:~)

Danifer said...

Thank you, and thank you for sharing, Sara :)