Because I recently went through a divorce, I of course subscribed to all sorts of blogs and websites to help me through the pain that a break-up can cause. With that, some articles that I have read are helpful and I thought I would share one that I read this evening.
It is from the website, Relationship Rules . The article is titled: 4 Reasons Honest Men Give To End It. This is written by "A", one of the co-founders of the website.
This article spoke to me because it is about being with someone who chooses to be honest about their feelings, about why they feel their relationship is not working, and being a grown-up and facing uncomfortableness. I believe that honesty is really the key point that I think too many people are afraid of. It's easier to either sweep problems under the rug, avoid conflict or just continue to not be a happy person in the relationship.
Back to the article. I feel these reasons are about the behavior in which an honest man displays, not necessarily the reason they give to their partner.
Reason #1 an honest man gives to end it: They want everything on the table. "A" describes that part of this has to do with not placing blame on just one person and that if you talk about all issues, the couple will realize that it is just not "one person's fault".
Reason #2 an honest man gives to end it: They don't like the blame game. Accepting fault is a true quality of an honest man. I agree with this statement. SOME men live with blinders about how "wonderful" their relationship is, when all the while they are unhappy and are too afraid to admit it. This might lead to conflict and having to face fears and issues.
Reason #3 an honest man gives to end it: They care for you to have closure. "A" says that an honest guy will always have the guts to say goodbye and they will not just disappear from facing the problem. They would never leave you hanging in between thinking what went wrong and where. Personally, I would have appreciated this happening in one of my relationship break-ups. Instead, being left with anger and hurt and never getting to "hash" things out and "deal" with issues has left me angry.
Reason #4 an honest man gives to end it: They respect you, still. They will never disrespect the good memories you had by leaving like a coward or like someone who wanted to run away. They will respect the fact that there are a few explanations to be given and few to be listened to. This is SPOT on!!!
Check out the article at Relationship Rules